This poem, from “Literary Sexts” by Caitlyn Siehl, rather beautifully sums up the fantasy of the Domme as a destructive force. I’m often contacted by people who want (or, at least, have the fantasy of wanting) to be emotionally dismantled. Many kinds of risk are exciting. Masochism isn’t just physical. Sometimes, the idea of unrequited love, humiliation and heartbreak is more tantalising than palpable injury.
From Club Pedestal:
“Pedestal’s next event will be Friday 28th March from 10pm to 5am at Club Colosseum.
Sadly this is our last party at Club Colosseum due to the venue closing down, so please help us celebrate our 6 fantastic years there!!! Its been our longest and happiest stretch at any venue, so lets make sure we leave with a bang before moving to a new night club.
Live Acts: A shiny, sensual, sexy first timer to our Midnight stage- The outrageous and unique Ruby Wednesday will be joining us with a performance that will intrigue, titillate, excite, and shock…blurring the lines and stirring the senses. The fabulous Aurora Galore will grace us with her twisted flaming mysticism, inspiring dance moves, and a self-pleasing relationship with a flame that only a Woman could dominate. Last, but not least, Beatrix Carlotta will tell a touching and taunting love story with her TOY, about that first experience. Join her and her play thing for drama, passion, and dark arousal with their latest performance ‘Virgin’.
For a flavour of the event and more details, please check out our web site :
http://www.clubpedestal.com/gallery.html
The VOX bar will be available for pre-club drinks from 8pm to 10pm. No dress code in the VOX, although its just Pedestal guests, so light play is possible. The VOX bar is right next door to the Colosseum.
Also upcoming for November, Pedestals regular attractions:
• Large team of House Slaves to serve and pamper female guests.
• Massive play space featuring over 15 pieces of fabulous kit.
• Guided tour for new people leaving fetlife corner, 10:30pm.
• DJs Acid Jo & Jamie Moon playing the suitably eclectic mix.
• Fetlife corner for meeting online fetish friends, staffed 10pm to 12pm.
• The Goddess room for a stricter environment.
• Free Tantric Massage for women in the Goddess Room.
• Best Dressed Man competition after the Cabaret.
• Select-A-slave in the goddess room at 11pm.
• Luxury Canapés
• ‘Maitre D’ service for women.
If you’d like to see the facebook page or say you’re going on Facebook, check here :
https://www.facebook.com/events/448100625333457/
You can also see/RSVP on Fetlife here :
https://fetlife.com/events/235223
Tickets for Pedestal available online from Joanna Lark’s store :
http://www.joannalark.com/store/categories/Tickets/Club-Pedestal/
Club Pedestal will be open from 10pm to 5am. The Colosseum is conveniently close to Vauxhall tube and national rail stations in London (5 minute walk) :
Club Colosseum,
Market Towers,
1 Nine Elms Lane,
Vauxhall,
London SW8 5NQ.
There is a free car park next to the club, the entrance is just past the Colosseum entrance.
Tickets will be available on the door, and can be purchased in advance from the following stores:
Joanna Lark online : http://www.joannalark.com/store/categories/Tickets/Club-Pedestal/
Honour, 86 Lower Marsh, Waterloo, London. SE1 7AB.
Regulation, 17A St Albans Place Islington London N1.
Liberation, 49 Shelton Street, Covent Garden, London WC2H 9HE.
Singles £18 in advance, £20 on the door.
Couples £30 in advance, £35 on the door
Please visit the Pedestal web site for more details – http://www.clubpedestal.com“
Here are a few choice paragraphs from a long but fascinating GQ article by a man addicted to buying Gucci leather outfits, nearly bankrupting himself in the process. He comes across with the arrogance of extreme privilege you’d expect from a man who spends hundreds of thousands of dollars on fashion, but writes deeply and insightfully about the power of clothing as both a fetish and a lifestyle in itself:
“…I began to seek sexual expression in the form of high fashion, men’s because I liked the hardness and women’s because I liked the sexiness. Blended together, it became a rocker look, particularly with the three skull rings on each hand to fit my usual dark mood…
…I had always been attracted to S&M, even at an early age, when I didn’t know what it was. My mother wore leather gloves in springtime. My first teacher in kindergarten, who probably thought I was mentally challenged because I never spoke, also wore leather gloves, and every day as she left I would watch as she slowly put them on with the stretch and pull of the fingers. My eighth-grade math teacher wore stiletto black leather boots and black hair like Elvira and spoke in dismissive clips, and I adored her, even when she dropped test results into my lap with B- circled in red at the top…
…I did engage in a relationship with a dominatrix after the failure of my second marriage. I left the scene after two years. But I clearly missed it, the trappings of leather increasingly irresistible. I liked extreme feelings of restraint and taking pain. But I was also interested in everything…
…I began to wonder about sex and sexuality and where exactly I fit in in the complex spectrum. I did go into the sexual unknown, and the clothing I began to wear routinely gave me the confidence to do it, to transcend the rigid definitions of sexuality and gender, just as I also know there were the requisite stereotypical snickers…”
Full article here.
