Category Archives: EVENTS: clubs and parties in fetishland……………

Have Your Cake, Eat It

Remember back in February when I mentioned that there would, in a couple of months, be an international day dedicated to Cake and Cunnilingus? Well, guess what today is!

Coco de Mer is celebrating with a “masturbake-off” competition in Covent Garden this afternoon, I have a good excuse to link to this rather sexy tequila advert from last year, and – after a quick search on YouTube – I have the sudden urge to shop at Sainsburys.

Anyway, happy C&C day. Enjoy in the traditional fashion.

Fannying Around

The first rule of fanny club is, never talk about fanny club. Except on this occasion. Fannying Around, the marvellous vagina-owners’ monthly gathering, is in today’s Metro (as is Ms Slide if you look carefully at the picture):

“…We are attending the new and fabulously outré Fannying Around – a monthly meeting run by Sarah Berry, erotic writer and editor of Foreplay magazine.

The gatherings, on the last Monday of the month, are a place for women to talk, whisper, giggle or get advice on their ‘secret place’.

Berry has one rule: what gets said in Fannying Around stays in Fannying Around. No question is too stupid and no experience too outrageous. I was touched by the accepting vibe of my female counterparts – all as curious and open-minded about exploring their sexual pleasure and sexual health as I am.

‘I started the forum because I had vaginismus into my twenties – a psychological condition which makes penetration painful or impossible,’ says Berry. ‘I was insanely embarrassed about it. It led to me being depressed. I felt like a wimp. I went to see sex therapists and tried everything I could think of to get over it. It wasn’t until I went on to write about sex that I realised there was nothing to be embarrassed about. Talking about what lies beneath is so important. It’s what I always needed.’

Once the icebreaker is out of the way, we hear from Mouse, an erotic performer and dominatrix with jaw-dropping party tricks under her…well…pants. On stage, Mouse has put flowers, drinks and even goldfish up you-know-where. She can squirt water and blow air bubbles too, so she talks to us about lubes, muscle control and overcoming shyness…”

Full article here. Also, if you’ve got a fanny (UK translation only – sorry chaps) and would like to attend or find out more, click here.

Love on Trial

I may or may not make it to this marvellous Mutineers’ mass-debate (I’m still a bit wobbly since being bashed by that bus) but it looks like it’ll be a good one. It’s at the Resistance Gallery (265 Poyser St, Bethnal Green, London, E2 9RF) and several acts have confirmed so far, including musician and comedian Helen Arney and performance poet Alison Brumfitt. Here are the details, via the lovely Lola Sparkle on the event’s Facebook page:

“Following the success of last year’s ‘on Trial’ events, Mutiny presents Love on Trial – an alternative Valentine’s night out of revolutionary politics, art and performance at the avant-garde Resistance Gallery in East London.

Join us for a carnivalesque evening of live entertainment and discussion as we cross-examine the concept of love from the left, starting with speed-debating and progressing through three interactive sessions… exploring a host of themes:

**How does romantic love work as an ideology, and can we escape the singular vision of it that saturates our airwaves? What is the relation between our historically specific conception of romantic heterosexual love and late capitalism? What other kinds of love might be valuable? Do we have enough love for our public services to save them?

**How does the state institutionalise, police and teach its citizens to love? How have schools, the church and the law helped and hindered the shift towards acceptance of a greater diversity of types of love? How did we build resistance in the past and where are the points of prejudice and control we need to confront today?

**What relation do love and other emotions bear to activism? Can daring to love differently be an efficacious political act in itself? Is it possible to separate our private lives from our political acts? What might love look like after the revolution?

With live music, performance poetry, and original live theatre, it’s a political party not to be missed.

Tickets £5 on the door or a very romantic buy-1-get-1-free online in advance at www.jointhemutiny.org.

Read more at the Mutiny Blog.