Category Archives: BLOGGERY: politics, religion & brain purges……

Sane

Here’s a snippet from a brilliant Slate.com article by Jillian Keenan on how the reclassification of kink in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders doesn’t go far enough to destigmatise BDSM. (Basically, we’re no longer deemed bad or mad pervs unless we’re also sad pervs.) :

“…In 1952, the DSM I officially categorized homosexuality as a mental disorder. As the gay rights movement gathered momentum in the 1960s, however, the psychiatric community introduced a diagnostic compromise by saying that people who were comfortable with their sexual orientation did not have a mental disorder. The APA triumphantly removed general homosexuality from the DSM in 1973. But for people who were “in conflict with” their homosexuality, they introduced a new condition instead: “sexual orientation disturbance” (SOD). The 1980 DSM IIIreplaced SOD with “ego-dystonic homosexuality,” but the basic principle remained the same: Happy homosexuals did not have a mental disorder, while unhappy ones did. 

The term paraphilia—which sexologist John Money defined as unusual sexual interests—first appeared in the DSM III. (Before that, the DSM II listed homosexuality, masochism, sadism, transvestism, fetishism, and other consensual minority sexualities alongside criminal pedophilia and frotteurism in the category of “sexual deviations.”) Although there were minor wording changes to the subsequent DSM IV and DSM IV-TR, psychiatric consensus continued to lump noncriminal paraphilias together with criminal paraphilias as mental disorders.

Thankfully, all forms of homosexuality (including ego-dystonic homosexuality) were finally removed from the DSM in 1987, after a long struggle and far too late. Noncriminal sexual paraphilias should also be removed for many of the same reasons that homosexuality was: People who are stigmatized and misunderstood, such as sexual minorities, might be unhappy—but the unhappiness itself is the problem that should be treated, not the person’s sexual identity or practice.

To be clear, I’m not comparing the experience of being kinky to the experience of being gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender. No one is trying to stop kinky people from getting married or, with a few exceptions, threaten our physical safety. The LGBTQ community has serious human rights violations to contend with; most kinksters face nothing more serious than internal turmoil, awkward conversations with new partners, and cultural mockery…”

Read the full article here.

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War on Whores

Here’s a small piece of a article by Molly Crabapple on the law that allows New York sex workers to be jailed for carrying condoms, and how a war on whores is ultimately a war on all women:

“…LGBT civil rights and sex worker advocacy groups are fighting against the use of condoms as evidence. Mainstream feminism is not. A movement that rightly and vociferously fought pharmacists who refused to fill birth control prescriptions has remained largely silent about women being jailed for carrying another contraceptive.  

Mainstream feminism might remember that the war on women always starts with the war on whores. Then, that category expands to include everyone but the white virgin tying her knees together in church. Until 1996, Ireland locked up unmarried moms and rape victims in Magdalene Laundries, where nuns worked them to death to cleanse their imaginary sins. The nuns built those Magdalene Laundries to imprison sex workers. Tens of thousands of women died within their walls, of every walk of life except the very wealthiest.

A bill to end the use of condoms as evidence was introduced in 1999. Health and civil rights organizations have been fighting to pass it ever since. Audacia Ray, founder of the sex workers activist organization the Red Umbrella Project says that while many politicians are supportive of the bill in private, they’re afraid to champion it publicly. They don’t want to be seen as pro-prostitution…”

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Feedback Loop: Compliment

A gentleman said some lovely things about me last week. He did this because I told him to. That probably still counts as a compliment on some level:

“One of my pet frustrations is those that can only see life in black and white and not understand that all the interesting bits are in the margins, in the blurred, shadowy world between the two. This applies to everything from debates on the current economic malaise through to the intention or not of a footballer’s alleged crime. It is the context and sub-plots that provide the interest, and stimulate. Nowhere is this more apparent than in the world of sexual stimulation and attraction.

The truly sexy people, those that tug deepest into our passions, have an ambiguity and throw out questions that will never be answered. And if they are they will just be replaced by more.

One such person of this ilk who has entered my radar is ms slide. Read the brochure and you expect a humourless dominatrix when in fact her sweet smile lights up the room. Her keen and sharp intellect stings the brain, that most powerful sexual organ, into life. Is she a truly as political as she seems when she plays with bankers? She has a very sassy, sexy look and great body but will she let you play with it? At what stage does the whip come down and is her control exerted? These and so many more questions hang delightfully, and very sexily, in the air. All that can be truly said is that she is a very stunning woman to look at, has great intelligence and relishes providing the punishment so many love to receive. Of the rest I don’t know, but to explore is fascinating.”

(Shut up! A compliment still counts when it’s coerced, doesn’t it? Really? Oh.)