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Assumptions

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Here’s a chunk of a heartwarming post from the “For the Love of Porn, Prostitution and Pussy” blog, by a former lifestyle escort, about the misconceptions people have about those in her line of work – many of which I’ve encountered since being “out” as a pro-Domme:

“…When the average man hears a story about prostitution, in most cases, he’s bombarded by messages about how she’s a helpless victim controlled by the psychotic whims of a crack crazed pimp. How she was abused by her daddy (reported in that unctuous faux empathy tone of voice that always used to piss me off. How her desire for sex is so overpowering that no man will ever satisfy her and she needs as many men a day as she can fuck. How she has been so downtrodden and desperate, that she’ll take any trick that she finds on the street, and will give him all she’s got, for half her rate and no condom…maybe a hit of smack or coke. With all the hyperbole and exposure of the most extreme cases, it’s no wonder lots of folks make stupid assumptions about who we are and what we’re about. Ladies And Gentlemen: Don’t let the door hit your Ass-umptions on the way out.

I really enjoyed my time as an escort. And I’ve been privileged to meet other ladies who have also worked in the sex industry by volition rather than desperation, who have been empowered by the experience instead of beaten down. As a society, let’s work to erase the stigma of sex work, deactivate archaic laws that only isolate those who need support and guidance most, mentor those who are new to this world, and have prostitution, porn and exotic dancing treated exactly like what they are: a job that one can take pride in.. No more, no less, no regrets. Thank you for opening your mind. That’s where all positive change starts, babydoll…”

Full article here.

The Grand Slutathon

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The word “slut” can be divisive. I never use it to describe women, as it’s been used as a tool of oppression for far too long. However, when it comes to men, I love to subvert expectations and tease a shag-happy gent with jibes of “you’re such a slut!” or “you massive slag!” or “I bet you’ve worn your knob down to the width of a Peperami, the number of holes you’ve stuck it in!*”.

For this reason, I’m delighted to be attending Ms Tytania’s Grand Slutathon. It’s a CFNM (clothed female, nude male) party in sumptuous surroundings where we stick it to the man with a spot of lady-on-chap strap-on fun and “forced” male bisexuality. Click here for more details, and click here to read my interview about taking men up the tradesman’s.

*Yes, I know that a penis doesn’t actually erode through overuse, but using it as an insult makes exactly as much physiological sense as a man telling a woman that her vagina loosens when she has sex with lots of different men. Yes. We’ve all heard men say that about women they consider to be “sluts”. The only thing to make a lady-hole go temporarily saggy is having a small human’s entire body pushed out of it. Gentlemen, unless you’ve got a knob the size of a fully-formed baby, it will make no change whatsoever to the elasticity of a woman’s vagina.

Extreme Porn Trial: Aftermath

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I’ve mentioned the recent extreme porn trial a couple of times lately, and undoubtedly will again. Since the last update, Myles Jackman – aka Obscenity Lawyer – has written an excellent Guardian article about the case. As to where we go from here, have a read of the summer newsletter from CAAN (Consenting Adult Action Network), by Jane Fae:

“Hi again – and i hope you’ve all had a good summer.
Unlike the one endured by Simon Walsh, whose prosecution for possession of extreme porn finally reached its dramatic climax in a trial and acquittal in early August.
Good news?  Not entirely.  For while he can now begin to rebuild his life, he has seen his name dragged through the mud, his career in tatters, and great damage done to friend and family relations. Extreme porn may or may not damage your health: being arrested for possessing it certainly does.
Now that the dust has settled, we are putting out a slightly more considered response to the issue.  The lead in this area is now being taken, very firmly, by Jon Fuller – and if you would like to contact him directly, please do.  Otherwise, there is a Woman’s Hour coming up shortly – possibly this week – looking at the issues raised by the trial and asking questions about how best to police online porn.
And over the next few weeks we will be sending out further details of events that reflect our broad commitment to the rights of grown-ups to decide for themselves what they do with their bodies. In case we don’t get further news out sooner, those who support a woman’s right to dress as she wishes – and not be dictated to by the crowd – may wish to support Slutwalk, which takes place on the 22nd of September this year.” 

Click here for more about CAAN.