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Freud and the MILFucker

Here’s a brilliant article by Aisha Sultan at STLtoday.com on the relationship between the rising popularity of Cougar porn and the global economic crisis:

“Freud would have a field day in the video aisles at Pure Pleasure Adult Megacenters. Mommy issues are making it in a most unexpected way, and the proof is in the porn. There is a booming genre of videos devoted to eroticizing mothers. But why? What’s driving the surging interest in yummy mummies (as they quaintly refer to them across the pond)? In fact, there’s a perfect storm of factors encouraging this fantasy: a bad economy in which men have been particularly bruised and a generation of man-boys stuck in arrested adolescence.

If young men are feeling particularly hapless, helpless and jobless in this moment, a soccer mom fantasy may be comforting or empowering. Does watching a mother, an increasingly powerful figure at home, get conquered by men allow them to reassert control that has been lost in changing gender roles at home?

“A lot of younger guys come in the shop, and you’d be surprised what kind of DVDs they’re choosing,” says Jim Kleinhans, part owner of Pure Pleasure Adult Megacenters, with nine locations across the country and five in St. Louis. He noticed that mother-themed pornography took off about three years ago. He sees more interest in videos starring older women, but it seems to go beyond the allure of an experienced woman. There is also an emerging class of faux-mommy whores.

“An adult movie title might say something about soccer moms, but the girl starring in it is 19 or 20 years old,” he explained. The title itself plays off the mom fantasy — even if the actresses are nowhere near motherhood. The mom-themed videos have been gaining momentum over the past several years, he said. “It’s become a major proportion of our sale and rental income,” Kleinhans said.

For earlier generations, there was the iconic Mrs. Robinson seducing the graduate. Then there was Stifler’s mom on “American Pie” deflowering a high school senior. Stifler’s mom, played by the dishy Jennifer Coolidge, may be single-handedly responsible for propelling a slang acronym that describes a mother someone would like to bed (using graphic language unfit for publication) into popular lexicon. She helped usher in an era of mainstream mommy lust.

Coolidge, who is performing her stand-up act this weekend at Comedy Etc. in Fairview Heights, says her role in the “American Pie” movies has made her an international magnet for younger men.

“It was always the cliché of men leaving their wives for younger women,” she said. “The playing field is sort of even now. Women make their own salaries. They can do the exact same thing and can have a younger man.”

For every woman threatened by her husband’s nubile secretary, there’s a man wary of the 18-year-old, strapping pool boy.

Coolidge noted a difference, however, in how American men, specifically, respond to her.

“The British boys really, really go nuts … to them, an older woman is sexy, and it’s an incredible fantasy. … I think the American fantasy is still about men wanting control. Maybe American men don’t feel as in control of their lives.”

Coolidge noted how her last boyfriend responded to her own dynamic stage presence.

“The last guy I was with, it was my lack of confidence (offstage) that he was attracted to. It was all about being smaller than him,” she said. “Younger guy are attracted to a strong quality. But many men (obviously, not all) still want to find a way to control it.”

We recently wrote about the new sexier image of motherhood, which Coolidge certainly embraces. There are plenty of mothers who consider being seen as sexually desirable as a compliment.

But it’s more than just the image of mothers that has changed in recent years: The lackluster economy, which has been shedding jobs for a prolonged period, has taken a toll on men, because male-dominated industries have been harder hit. As more men have lost their wage-earning status, more women have taken on the role. And, recent research indicates that not only are more wives outearning men, in a third of marriages, they are better educated, as well.

Could the “Rise of Wives” be reviving an unresolved Oedipal Complex? A 40-year-old male friend, with a self-described casual interest in this subject, says the reason most men like mommy porn is much less complicated than a subconscious desire to regain control in the face of emasculating social and economic forces.

“It is naughty,” he explained. “This is ultimately a fantasy in which a man has stumbled across a hidden treasure trove of sexual pleasures which have been covered up with dowdy clothes and a mass of responsibilities. The woman is still vital and hungry — and when engaged, voracious.” But even in his example, the man gets to set the mother free, unlock her pent-up desire.

Still, he’s probably the wrong demographic to explain a mother’s allure. It’s the tastes of much-younger, perennially noncommittal man-boys that are more curious. They are part of the generation raised dependent on helicopter mommies to rescue them, and now they’re attracted to a fantasy in which men sexually humiliate the supermom-next-door. Coincidence?

Perhaps, in our hypersexualized culture, the fringes of social boundaries are the most erotic. Whatever is propelling the mommy fetish in pornography, it does give Freudians a shot at a rather literal case study.”

Click here for the original article.

Beautiful Agony

Cumfaces: we all have them.

Before you disagree, I’m not talking about the messy, squinting grimace of the post-popshot porn actress. (The mandatory fadeout in mainstream wank-fodder nowadays seems to be a dissatisfied blonde wiping someone else’s dripping ejaculate out of her eyes and nostrils.) No, the cumface I’m referring to is your own. It’s that face you make when you orgasm; that almost pained expression of ecstasy you adopt at that very point when the rest of the world momentarily ceases to exist and sensation is paramount. It’s beautiful.

For this reason, internet porn is heading in a new and interesting direction. More and more people are becoming bored with the monotony of hardcore porn where a camera zooms in on the synthetically-lubricated holes of a surgically-enhanced, spray-tanned actress who then yells in feigned enthusiasm at whoever – or whatever – is roughly and awkwardly inserted. Aside from a small number of ethical and genuinely erotic production houses, creative BDSM scenarios and rare amateur uploads, porn had become tedious, so something had to be done.

Beautiful Agony was set up in 2004 and is growing steadily more popular. It’s a site in which you get to see real orgasms from real people – from the neck up. Each video becomes a intimate portrait of the individual’s cumface, and the result is far sexier than the majority of hardcore hole-battering, cock-choking, eye-spattering sessions elsewhere on the internet. The site’s founder, Richard Lawrence agrees: “I think empathy is the key,” he said in an interview with AlterNet. “When you watch a porn video you know it’s acted, whereas to be aroused requires that you believe there is some actual sexual and emotional interchange happening.”

We hope to bring you more from Beautiful Agony soon… Watch this space!

Dom Seeks Door-Mat

We are all fallible. It’s just that, as a Dominant, it’s somewhat difficult to admit it.

Of course, we Tops have the same fears, neuroses and insecurities as anyone else, but it’s far more practical to make a willing sub suffer them on our behalf, while we ourselves retain a lofty silence and mock the histrionics of the lower orders. It’s all role-play. It’s what we do in BDSM. Despite being very demanding creatures, we can stay relatively sane as long as we keep our emotions and expectations in perspective and don’t start thinking that everything must be someone else’s fault. In any interaction involving the exchange of power, one must keep at least a smidgen of self-awareness to avoid vanishing completely up one’s own bottom.

Sadly, that doesn’t always happen. It’s particularly messy when ‘nillas attempt earnest, un-ironic, lifestyle control-freakery. Here’s part of an entry from the WhyWomenHateMen blog, the enlightening collection of genuine personal ads from dating sites across cyberspace. The lonely heart profile posted below demonstrates the worryingly fine line between dominance and screaming, gibbering, murderous insecurity:

“ENOUGH IS ENOUGH LADIES

Ok, after years and years of trying to be nice and courteous to the female race. I’ve finally had enough and in search of a long term relationship. Here’s what I want.

1.) You have to have the following, Car, Job, and of at least graduated high school. If your a dropout, then please do us a favor, kill yourself.

2.) Smoking Hot – Yes I said it, i’m not the best looking guy, but i’m sick and tired of going after less than what I deserve.

3.) Shitty personality – If you look down on others, then piss off and move on. Find a man who does not give a shit about you and uses you for what your worth, that sweet little honey pot between your legs.

4.) Indecisiveness – Any shred of “I don’t know what I want” after you state that someone is everything you ever wanted, will result in a team of women known as my psychotic sisters will hunt you down and leave you wherever they find you

5.) Three Input Girls – if you are then my prayers are answered because I need something to slide something fat, long and ready to go inside of where I wanna put it.

6.) No emotional friends – I’ve put people in jail and in the ground for this one. You have been warned.

7.) Dedication- you will be with me or report to me on your whereabouts when I ask, and sleep in my bed at all times. You don’t need to go on vacations by yourself nor do you feel the need for girl nights outs .

8.) Availability- You should go to work no more than half an hour before you shift starts and you must return home in a timely manner after your shift ends. If you would like to go out with your work “friends” you will go out with me and your “work” friends

9.) Self-Control – I really dislike a woman who tries to show her ass offin public, especially one who goes to night clubs and grinds her ass on every dick in the place. This pisses me off greatly.

10.) Lead on’s – If you lead me on, instead of attempting to make a commitment toward a relationship will only lead yourself into getting the biggest dosage of karma you ever received.

Finally…

11.) Ex’es – If you still have a running contact with a ex-boyfriend, ex-husband, ex-lover or ex-fling. Then I will not tolerate that. I have friends in U.S., U.K., CIA, DEA, FBI, NSA, SIS, GSG-9 (I get around).

And if I have the slightest doubt, you know that feeling that your being followed? You are.

Me, workaholic, running a successful business, and highly family oriented that doesn’t give a shit, or takes any shit. Must have a preference for big men who are more muscular than fat.

I look forward to talking with all of you women out there and hopefully one of you can be my potential soulmate and make beautiful babies.

Hugh”

(All spelling and grammatical errors left as they were found. For WhyWomenHateMen’s excellent commentary, click here.)