We are all fallible. It’s just that, as a Dominant, it’s somewhat difficult to admit it.
Of course, we Tops have the same fears, neuroses and insecurities as anyone else, but it’s far more practical to make a willing sub suffer them on our behalf, while we ourselves retain a lofty silence and mock the histrionics of the lower orders. It’s all role-play. It’s what we do in BDSM. Despite being very demanding creatures, we can stay relatively sane as long as we keep our emotions and expectations in perspective and don’t start thinking that everything must be someone else’s fault. In any interaction involving the exchange of power, one must keep at least a smidgen of self-awareness to avoid vanishing completely up one’s own bottom.
Sadly, that doesn’t always happen. It’s particularly messy when ‘nillas attempt earnest, un-ironic, lifestyle control-freakery. Here’s part of an entry from the WhyWomenHateMen blog, the enlightening collection of genuine personal ads from dating sites across cyberspace. The lonely heart profile posted below demonstrates the worryingly fine line between dominance and screaming, gibbering, murderous insecurity:
“ENOUGH IS ENOUGH LADIES
Ok, after years and years of trying to be nice and courteous to the female race. I’ve finally had enough and in search of a long term relationship. Here’s what I want.
1.) You have to have the following, Car, Job, and of at least graduated high school. If your a dropout, then please do us a favor, kill yourself.
2.) Smoking Hot – Yes I said it, i’m not the best looking guy, but i’m sick and tired of going after less than what I deserve.
3.) Shitty personality – If you look down on others, then piss off and move on. Find a man who does not give a shit about you and uses you for what your worth, that sweet little honey pot between your legs.
4.) Indecisiveness – Any shred of “I don’t know what I want” after you state that someone is everything you ever wanted, will result in a team of women known as my psychotic sisters will hunt you down and leave you wherever they find you
5.) Three Input Girls – if you are then my prayers are answered because I need something to slide something fat, long and ready to go inside of where I wanna put it.
6.) No emotional friends – I’ve put people in jail and in the ground for this one. You have been warned.
7.) Dedication- you will be with me or report to me on your whereabouts when I ask, and sleep in my bed at all times. You don’t need to go on vacations by yourself nor do you feel the need for girl nights outs .
8.) Availability- You should go to work no more than half an hour before you shift starts and you must return home in a timely manner after your shift ends. If you would like to go out with your work “friends” you will go out with me and your “work” friends
9.) Self-Control – I really dislike a woman who tries to show her ass offin public, especially one who goes to night clubs and grinds her ass on every dick in the place. This pisses me off greatly.
10.) Lead on’s – If you lead me on, instead of attempting to make a commitment toward a relationship will only lead yourself into getting the biggest dosage of karma you ever received.
Finally…
11.) Ex’es – If you still have a running contact with a ex-boyfriend, ex-husband, ex-lover or ex-fling. Then I will not tolerate that. I have friends in U.S., U.K., CIA, DEA, FBI, NSA, SIS, GSG-9 (I get around).
And if I have the slightest doubt, you know that feeling that your being followed? You are.
Me, workaholic, running a successful business, and highly family oriented that doesn’t give a shit, or takes any shit. Must have a preference for big men who are more muscular than fat.
I look forward to talking with all of you women out there and hopefully one of you can be my potential soulmate and make beautiful babies.
Hugh”
(All spelling and grammatical errors left as they were found. For WhyWomenHateMen’s excellent commentary, click here.)
