Here’s a snippet from Ms Tytania’s insightful response to a somewhat misguided article at SheLovesSex.com about the perks of finding a “beta male”.
“…Gentlemen: I’ve read many times about the shy, sociably inept male who describes himself as beta, a substitute for “submissive”. If you think that submissiveness means being a useless, unworldly child in search for a mother substitute, then you got it all wrong. Even today, it takes a lot of courage for most men to acknowledge that they don’t want to be testosterone-led beasts. In my experience, rugger-buggers take it up the arse from a lady and IT geeks have stables of panting slave girls. And none of them are alpha nor beta.
This article validates choosing second best, perpetuates clichés of school jocks and geeks (very American), and tells you that being the most popular girl at school is an aspiration that you should bring into your adult life. And that if you can’t keep a jock to parade on your arm, grit your teeth and walk tall in the company of that boy who isn’t that great, but if he likes you and appreciates you, you should reward him with the joys of your poon. A woman should be grateful for any validation she can get, from anyone, and anywhere. Sexual validation, and in great quantities, is key.
Feminism? I don’t think so.”
Ms Tytania’s full blog post here.
Hi there BitchBlog,
I wanted to send you my response to Ms. Tytania….
Hi Ms Tytania,
I wanted to respond to your comments about the article I wrote for SheLovesSex.com:
This article was not written by a dominatrix, as I am not one. It was not tagged with the term ‘feminism,’ because it certainly doesn’t belong under that heading. Not everything written about male/female relationships is about feminism or domination/submission. Particularly in the case of this article.
The intended audience for ‘The Beta Male’ were those women out there looking for a partner. A common statistic thrown around on dating sites is that 95% of the people are all seeking the same top 5%, which makes for a lot of lonely souls left hanging. This article was intended for those who seek perfection, and reject the nice guy next door, and was inspired by my own life. After years of bad dating experiences (which led to many great stories, but little else), I gave someone a try who was ‘not my type.’ We’re now both happy, and I’m glad I got the chance to know him; in internet dating, those you don’t make dates with never get to show their clever/funny/real side, because the picture they attach isn’t attractive enough, or they falter when they should charge forward.
You are seeking a certain type of person, as you clearly demonstrate here. I was too, and later learned that the right partner (not the right submissive) didn’t act or look as I had expected he would. This article was an encouragement to other women to try a different tack, not to settle for less.
While you misunderstood my intention, I respect your opinions. Thanks in advance for respecting mine, as well.
Dixie De La Tour
SheLovesSex.com