In 1989, Noam Chomsky published a book called “Necessary Illusions: Thought Control in Democratic Societies”. It was about how distortion and distraction are used by media propagandists to keep the public malleable to those in power. When the populace thinks it is living in a free society, and that the information available is unbiased, it is then possible to dominate it.
On an individual level, Dominatrices use a similar strategy when it comes to public relations. We are fantasy figures. Our own mythology dictates that we are the most beautiful, powerful women in the universe, more intelligent and innately talented than all those mere mortals beneath us. We stride through the world with the confidence of a religious zealot, stepping over lesser beings and trampling them beneath our towering stiletto heels.
I’m not just talking about Pro-Domming here. This isn’t about business. As a lifestyle, in public, in relationships, we Tops project our own grandeur but keep the finer details of our successes somewhat hazy.
The truth is carefully filtered so that all available evidence reasserts our greatness. We are mysterious figures, only glimpsed from flattering camera angles in favourable lighting, wearing outfits that squeeze, pad and prop to make our bodies impossibly desirable. Our infinite talents are hinted at, our intellectual prowess and creativity whispered about in hushed awe among the ranks of the teeming ignorami. We are sexual superbeings.
Yet what are we if we strip away the mystery? Naked in every way, we become just as lumpy, insecure and as mentally unremarkable as everyone else. And we all are. There’s no getting away from it. None of us can possibly live up to our own hype. If we show too much of ourselves – intellectually, creatively, emotionally – the chase is over and the spell is broken.
So, submissive men, I pose a question: is it better for a Domme keep her personality in its metaphorical corset? Again, I’m not talking about business here. I’m talking about every kind of intimacy and the D/s dynamic. Are necessary illusions preferable to the disappointing reality of a multi-faceted, deeply-flawed and comparatively mediocre human being? Your thoughts on this are welcome.
