As a Dominatrix, it’s difficult being an autonomous lifestyle kinkster and enjoying what I do for a living, yet struggling against the possible financial necessity of being a “service provider” for someone else’s (potentially incompatible) fantasies. So far, I’ve avoided being a service domme. This is mainly out of stubbornness, and the need to keep enjoying my work and my kinks. This is also why I’m not wealthy.

Anyway, here’s a snippet from a Huffington Post interview with Washington DC’s Domina Vontana on exactly that:

“…A dominatrix is a performer. The IRS term for the job is ‘Psychodramatist.’ She doesn’t pretend to be dominant. That part must be authentic for a successful scene. She has to want to be there or the client can tell.

In the role of a service top, which is how I identify, my job is to fulfill the fantasy of the bottom or submissive. As a professional as well as a lifestyle dominant, the longer I play the more particular I become, so now I only see clients who are experienced, submit easily and want the same type of scenes that I do…”

Full interview here.