Category Archives: ARCHIVE BLOGGERY

Awareness & Sexual Preference Study

Encouraging news from Business Wire, where a survey conducted by the Wiser Marketing Group shows that men’s attitudes to alternative sexualities are changing:

‘…In the study of 315 men between the ages of 25 – 54, not only do a great majority support couples in their right to consensually please one-another as they wish, their support of historically taboo activities is refreshingly overwhelming. According to survey responses, 37% of men would be interested in having sex in public and 30% of men would possibly be interested in tying someone up or being tied up assuming safety and a willing partner. A little more mainstream, but deviant according to historical social mores, 53% of respondents said they get sexually aroused from seeing people other than their partner(s) nude and 52% are sexually aroused watching others have sex – 47% of whom are “Somewhat/Very Religious.”

“The fact that the world is loosening up a bit is so refreshing,” says Peter Acworth, founder of Kink.com. “We’ve been stereotyped for far too long. And for no reason other than wanting to satisfy our innate carnal needs and desires. When I saw the results of the study, I said to myself, ‘it’s so good to see progress.’ I mean there’s nothing wrong with a little enjoyment of ‘alternative’ sexual activities as long as everyone involved is participating consensually”…’

Full article here.

Fair

This week saw the legendary Folsom Street Fair take place, as it does every year, in San Francisco’s South of Market district. Founded in 1984, it is now the world’s largest leather and BDSM event. For those like me who live on the other side of the world and have spent the weekend in bed with flu, the kind folks at SFist.com have provided a series of photos (some mildly NSFW) for us all to peruse at our leisure.

Click here for the full gallery.

Cunt

Something appears to have gone wrong with my blog. Images aren’t being displayed. As a result, I’ll post about something that would probably be easier for you to read at work without an accompanying photo.

Today I’m going to talk about the word “cunt”. It’s a marvellous word. It has power. It offends. We keep it hidden away and save it for special occasions, like a favourite dress or expensive bottle of wine. It’s the Sunday-best of swear words. Few use it frivolously.

Several years ago, someone wrote a letter to Diva Magazine to reprimand them for using the term “cunt” instead of “vagina”. The editor then pointed out that vagina means “sheath for a sword”. Understandably, reference to the female genitalia as a mere “sheath” for anything in a lesbian magazine would have been ridiculous. Cunt remained.

Other words for a lady’s private parts are embarrassingly docile. They make it sound like a fluffy animal, preschool child’s cartoon character or nasty injury. Yet none are as provocative as cunt. It seems taboo to use a word that doesn’t defuse or disarm this dangerous body part, rendering it either a harmless creature or unpleasant affliction. Is a woman’s cunt really so frightening?

As an insult, this word is the most brutal in the English language. There are no penile euphemisms that shock and wound like a well-aimed cunt. Unlike in the USA, it’s a unisex insult in Britain. To call a man a cunt will cut him more deeply than any other term of abuse. Why is this? Are female genitals so much more offensive than those of the male?

Last month, I posted an article about the power of the nude woman in art:

“There is power in the taboo of the naked female form. For centuries, our unclad bodies have been used as symbols to shock, to arouse and to protest, and often in art, a nude is more than just a nude.”

It seems that the word used for the very core of those bodies is similarly intoxicating.

*edit* – just found an interesting article on the etymology of “cunt” here.