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Deep Inside Statistics

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I can’t do this article at JonMillward.com justice without just posting a link and telling you to have a look yourself. Read the whole thing.

It’s a bit US-centric, as the data is taken from the Adult Film Database, so only includes published mainstream porn films, rather than the clips and members’ sites of more alternative adult content. Even so, it’s refreshing to see the statistics and challenge assumptions. Even though the mainstream industry is still largely white, slim and heteronormative, the stereotype of female porn stars as predominantly generic, exploited, big-breasted blondes who have no choice over what they do or who they do it with is proven to be false. The study also examines words commonly used in porn film titles, whether the emphasis is on breasts or bottoms, and how trends have changed over the past two decades. It’s a genuinely fascinating read.

Click here to see the whole “Deep Inside” study.

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Sexualisation

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Sexualisation. It’s become one of those words that people use without really examining what they mean by it. Whenever there’s talk of the media, or technology, or basically anything that has altered since the 1950s, commentators seem to gravitate back to the term “sexualisation” as something terrible that will happen to our female children if we don’t lock them in a tower and remove all ties to the outside world.

Laurie Penny has addressed this more brilliantly than I could ever hope to. Here’s a snippet of her article for the New Statesman:

‘…According to the ‘sexualisation’ logic, a young girl merely has to leaf through a contraband copy of Cosmopolitan or stumble on a Rhianna video on Youtube and wham, that’s it, sexualised. Ruined forever. Nothing to be done, and abuse and wanton, abject harlotry will surely follow.

“The honest facts of female sexual development in adolescence- especially the facts of girls’ desire – have sustained a long history of active censorship,” wrote Woolf in 1997. A decade-and-a-half later, it is still modish for politicians and public health officials to behave as if women and girls had no sexual agency whatsoever, and must instead be protected from the terrible disease of “sexualisation”, which young girls are assumed to catch like the common cold.

Apparently, we cannot cope, as a culture, with the idea that a young girl who experiences sexual desire might not be promiscuous, or wicked, or dangerous. With every technology of pleasure and knowledge at our fingertips, we are not a society that wants to know about female pleasure, or one that respects female sexual subjectivity.

And if young women are victimised – one in six children aged between 11 and 17 have experienced sexual abuse – we still seem to have a problem with placing blame where it belongs, with the abusers, whether they are strangers or members of their own family. No politician seems able to come forward and tell adult men to stop abusing young girls. The problem must, instead, lie with female sexuality itself, too much, or too young, or both. This week, national treasure Joanna Lumley took it upon herself to weigh in and tell young women to stop dressing “like trash” if they don’t want to get raped – an attitude that, despite the best efforts of sex-positive feminists, is becoming more and more common…’

Read the full article here.

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Such a Girl

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A while ago, I was thrashing a willing gent with a flogger. He was flinching, moaning and making rather irritating squeaky noises.

“You’re such a pussy.”

I said it without thinking.

“No,” I said then, quickly correcting myself. “Pussies are strong. You’re weak. You’re a testicle.”

It’s easy to use macho language as it’s so common. Everyone does it. Our culture is saturated in it. Yet it doesn’t make sense when scrutinised. Why should anything female be seen as an insult to either gender, and why does society tolerate this being the norm?

Below is a snippet from Charles Clymer’s blog on exactly that:

‘…Simply put, I never understood why it’s wrong to do “feminine” things, especially when I saw girls and young women my age, throughout childhood, do “masculine” things without any sort of backlash.

A woman who “acts like a man” may across as a “bitch” (one of the more indicative terms of ignorance in society), but she can still often be portrayed as strong and confident and effective. We wouldn’t exactly say a girl who wants to be like her daddy is in the wrong.

A man, on the other hand, can never “act like a woman,” which is thinly-veiled code for being weak, emotional, and ineffective. We would never encourage a boy who says he “wants to be like mommy” when he grows up.

This sentiment easily seeps into male culture from a young age. The go-to insults for any man (and often, many women) against another man is to slam him for being feminine.

“Stop being such a little bitch.”

“Pussy.”

“Fag.”

“You’re such a girl” or “You fight like a girl” or “You throw like a girl”, etc.

On the other side of the coin, it can be implied you’re not being “man enough.” There are “man laws” and “man cards” to describe guys who aren’t living up to another man’s expectation of what it means to be a man.

Some really do think of this as just a humorous outlet and nothing to take seriously.

Others take it incredibly seriously and indicate their own insecurity behind a habit of being macho and describing other men in feminine terms…’

Read the full blog post here.

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