Here’s part of a wonderful Salon.com interview with San Francisco writer and kinkster, Susie Bright, addressing the long–debated socio–political dilemma facing the feminist femsub:

‘…Tracy Clark-Flory: One of my favorite passages in the book is a scene in your women’s studies class in college. A student reveals that she has rape fantasies and the classroom explodes with shouts of, “It’s the patriarchy!”

Susie Bright: It’s fun to laugh about it now. It was so scary at the time.

Tracy Clark-Flory:Right, well, you write that sex education in women’s studies classes was an odd duck. Why is that?

Susie Bright: The template for feminist sex education in the ’70s was “Our Bodies, Our Selves.” It did everybody this massive gift of popularizing clear information about our physiology. When it came to anatomy, the women’s movement was all on the same page. You know, “Here is your clitoris. Here is your vulva. Masturbation is fabulous.” But as soon as you got above the neck and started talking about the erotic mind — where our sexual imagination goes when we’re daydreaming, masturbating or in bed with someone — then people started getting very nervous. The feminist movement had a difficult relationship with everything to do with the shadow side, the psychological world. The term “rape fantasy” is an oxymoron, because of course when you’re actually assaulted there’s nothing fantastical about it. In a fantasy, you control every quiver, every nuance — you’re as scared as you wanna be. The tension, the suspense is completely under your control. That’s the opposite of a non-consensual act of violence…”

Full interview here.

Oh dear. Another case of breath-play going awry. Twice. You’d think he’d have been a bit more careful with his subs after the first time, but no.

From Pinknews.co.uk:

“An Australian gay man has pleaded guilty to the murder of a lover halfway through his trial. David Richard Fraser, of Adelaide, admits strangling 28-year-old Luke Noonan during a sex act involving erotic asphyxia in September 2009.

Fraser, 36, initially denied murdering Mr Noonan but changed his plea today, The Age reports. The South Australian Supreme Court heard that he had wrapped a belt around Mr Noonan’s neck during sex. At the time of the younger man’s death, Fraser was on parole following a conviction for the manslaughter of another man during a sex game. In 2005, he killed Shaine Moore during a consensual sex act. Fraser had tied a shoelace around Mr Moore’s neck.

Pleading guilty to manslaughter, he claimed that Mr Moore unexpectedly lost consciousness and died. The Supreme Court was told about the 2005 case after prosecutors argued that it showed Fraser was aware of the risks of erotic asphyxiation. The jury was dismissed today after Fraser’s guilty plea. He will return to court next month.”

Original article here.

Do try to play safely, ladies and gents. Oxygen isn’t just for Tops.