The common misconception about Dominatrices is that we hate men. We don’t. Nobody would share an experience as intimate as consensual BDSM with someone they hated. That would be daft. Then again, most of the people who make the assumption that Dommes are just man-haters are the same people who assume that BDSM is just hitting.

Yet the trend for men to feel victimised by women outside of BDSM fantasy appears to be growing. When I was in a long-term relationship with a woman, I was repeatedly asked why I hated men. I explained, every time, that I didn’t hate men, but loved a woman. Yet somehow, many still assumed that a lesbian coupling must be about men in some way, and many seemed to take it as a personal insult that I chose to have sex with her and not with them.

Recently, I’ve noticed a sizeable lump of the internet dedicate itself to white, heterosexual, middle-class men who consider themselves the most persecuted minority on earth. (I could list such blogs from the Manosphere here, but Manboobz has done a better and more comprehensive job, so go there instead.) It seems that Beyonce may have been right after all, and that we women, with our towering, international gynocracy, rule over our feeble menfolk with a (humiliatingly phallic) rod of iron.

Except we don’t. Obviously. Inequality between genders is rife in almost every aspect of every society today, and women – as has been the case for millennia – invariably lose. The thought of a magical Queendom full of all-powerful Overladies and downtrodden gentlemen is lovely as a BDSM fantasy, but it just doesn’t exist. Sadly, the enraged bloggers of the Manosphere don’t realise this.

Here’s a wonderful blog on the Manosphere by Graham Murkett, and I’ve posted the accompanying YouTube video below: