(See 2014 edit below)

I have heard it ranted that male feminisation by a dominant woman is an act that merely plays to a male fantasy and weakens the ideal of the dominant female.

I disagree. Firstly, I disagree because I thoroughly enjoy it. I like to make men look ridiculous – and sissies* generally do look ridiculous. The man-dressed-as-a-woman theme has been the staple for comedy writers since Shakespeare. There are those exceptions, of course, those cross-dressing individuals who are simply stunning, men who become tall, swan-like women in the most graceful and innately beautiful way. Yet a lot of the time, men dressed as ladies tend to look pant-pissingly funny. Especially the big-boned, brick-shouldered, hairy ones.

Secondly, and on a wholly theoretical level, when you feminise a man, you’re not dressing him as any ordinary woman: you’re making him into the stereotype that was created by a patriarchy and is now turned back on him to demean everything he considers powerful, dignified and dominant. I mean, when was the last time you saw a sissy-sub dressed as a strong, confident, post-feminist, urban woman-about-town?

The sissies are dressed to parody an archetype that a male-dominated society itself created: The sissy is a maid, covered in frills and flounces, eager to please and sexually available; the sissy is a 50’s pin-up, all floral prints, seamed stockings and home-baked cheesecake grin; the sissy is a platinum blonde streetwalking hooker – the imagined stereotype of movie sex worker, not the reality.

We’re not dressing these men as women. We’re dressing them in the clothes and behaviour that men have previously expected of women, and showing them just how it feels. If that’s not a feminist act, then I don’t know what is!

*2014 edit – this post is specifically about the fetish of sissy humiliation, not about cross-dressing in general, not about feminisation in general and certainly not about trans women. I’m calling myself out retrospectively on some careless language and coming across as a bit douchey.