Oh. Oh dear. It irks me to criticise any of these chaps or their “Dear Woman” video, as I’m sure they mean well. At least they’re making an effort, albeit a rather misguided one.

It’s just that, much as we ladies apparently spend a lot of time sitting around and “listening to” our “bodies”, we’d rather like these gentlemen to listen to our bodies too – mainly the mouth area and the sounds that come out of it. It may come as a surprise to them that we feeble creatures can actually process “data and logic”, just like they do, not choosing to focus solely on “feelings and intuition” and our “natural sense of nurturing and abundance”. We’re not these passive, emotional bags of fluffy spirituality that they seem to assume we are.

I’m sure that all these “Conscious Men” have good intentions. I’m sure they all feel proud of themselves for how enlightened they must now be. Yet I’m not sure any woman could watch this video without feeling (in her “divine feminine heart”) horribly patronised.

April 3rd, 2011, saw Toronto’s “SlutWalk”, the very public reaction to a police officer’s odious comment about sexual assault. Here’s part of an excellent article by Rachel Kramer Bussel at Alternet about the culture of slut-shaming:

‘…“Slut” is meant as a way to put women back in their place (with legs firmly closed), and make them ashamed of their perceived promiscuity, as well as make others join in on this shaming. However the women “slut” is being hurled at feel about it, the fact that it is still, in 2011, the go-to insult for women, is problematic. We need to work to neutralize the term so that it doesn’t wield the impact that it once did. Writers have been reclaiming the word, from the classic polyamory primer The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy, to groupie memoirist Roxana Shirazi, author of 2010’s The Last Living Slut: Born in Iran, Bred Backstage. Yet those who continue to use the word mean it as anything but a proud proclamation.

Some activists fighting back against one of the most insidious forms of institutional slut-shaming are the organizers of SlutWalk Toronto, to be held April 3. The event was organized after a representative of the Toronto police department stated that “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.” This equation of perceived slutdom with an incitement to violence, the ultimate “she was asking for it” argument, is the logical end point for those who think women’s bodies are under some sort of communal control. Their walk also includes a poster campaign, one of which tells us to “Reclaim the Word Slut” and at the top says something I think speaks to the issue more succinctly than anything else: “Slut isn’t a look. It’s an attitude. And whether you enjoy sex for pleasure or work, it’s never an invitation to violence.”’

Full article here.

SlutWalk Toronto website here.