Category Archives: BLOGGERY: articles of interest from elsewhere………

Dommes and the Daily Mail

Being a Pro-Domme is all about discretion. Even blackmail fantasies have to involve elements of consent and responsibility. People who “out” their clients to the press for whatever reason give us all a bad name. Be reassured that the majority of Dommes harbour such hatred toward the tabloid press that, when linking to today’s annoying story, I have used the cached istyosty link so that your click won’t boost the Daily Fail’s advertising revenue.

A brief look at the story would plant the assumption that a Pro-Domme filmed her client, a cosmetic surgeon, for the purposes of blackmail, then leaked the footage to the press and General Medical Council. However, we must remember that this is the Mail.

A more detailed read hints that the incident had no connection to her having been a (retired) Dominatrix. She was this man’s patient and, for reasons that nobody quite explains, he wanked himself into a frenzy in front of her several times while she was on his treatment table. He then sent her a lot of sexually explicit text messages. It is not clear whether she provoked these actions, or even consented to them. On one occasion, she covertly filmed him masturbating, apparently with the intention of using it as evidence to get him struck off from his post. Her husband instead attempted to blackmail the surgeon with this footage, and was later jailed. The woman was cleared of any charges.

This, then, is the story of a doctor who took bedside manner to an inappropriate level, a husband’s failed attempt at blackmail, and a woman whose role in the affair – whether a victim, a perpetrator, or anywhere in between – had absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with the fact she used to be a Dominatrix. Yet this is the Daily Mail. The sort of sneering glance that most readers give it would convey only that we Pro-Dommes are all duplicitous, money-grabbing, fame-hungry whores. Myth perpetuated, the print presses whir and the world continues to spin as normal. Thanks a fucking lot, Mail.

In unrelated news, anti-defamation protesters are meeting outside the Mail’s Kensington headquarters RIGHT NOW. Do pop along if you fancy making yourself heard.

Have Your Cake, Eat It

Remember back in February when I mentioned that there would, in a couple of months, be an international day dedicated to Cake and Cunnilingus? Well, guess what today is!

Coco de Mer is celebrating with a “masturbake-off” competition in Covent Garden this afternoon, I have a good excuse to link to this rather sexy tequila advert from last year, and – after a quick search on YouTube – I have the sudden urge to shop at Sainsburys.

Anyway, happy C&C day. Enjoy in the traditional fashion.

Dear Man

Oh. Oh dear. It irks me to criticise any of these chaps or their “Dear Woman” video, as I’m sure they mean well. At least they’re making an effort, albeit a rather misguided one.

It’s just that, much as we ladies apparently spend a lot of time sitting around and “listening to” our “bodies”, we’d rather like these gentlemen to listen to our bodies too – mainly the mouth area and the sounds that come out of it. It may come as a surprise to them that we feeble creatures can actually process “data and logic”, just like they do, not choosing to focus solely on “feelings and intuition” and our “natural sense of nurturing and abundance”. We’re not these passive, emotional bags of fluffy spirituality that they seem to assume we are.

I’m sure that all these “Conscious Men” have good intentions. I’m sure they all feel proud of themselves for how enlightened they must now be. Yet I’m not sure any woman could watch this video without feeling (in her “divine feminine heart”) horribly patronised.